Category Archives: Relationships

We Say, It’s a Relationship…

He says he doesn’t want to set expectations high
She says: oh, Is that what you are doing?

He says that he doesn’t like calling people
But she picks his call when he is horny

Some might call this girl foolish. But she isn’t that dumb.

He says, he doesn’t get attached to people
She listens. She believes him.

She says: ‘ if I was gone for one week, would you forget me’?
He says: ‘ You don’t even know! That’s why I am calling’.

He says: ‘ I promise to never jaywalk again when I am with you.’
A week later he says “ I must have been drunk when I said that”.

Maya Angelou said: “When someone shows you who they are, believe them”.

He says: ‘ you are making me fall for you’.
She stays quiet. And kisses him

He says: ‘ trust me. I’ll pull out in time’
She says: ‘ That’s what all guys say”.

He says: ‘ I want to try something. But I need you to trust me’.
She says: ‘This goes beyond trust’.

Her daddy told her, urajye usara uzi imisozi.

He wants sex.
She wants experience

She offers him food.
He doesn’t like her cooking.

She wants practice
He wants satisfaction

He needs love
She needs appreciation

He wants forever
She wants the best day of her life

They say: “ You guys make a cute couple”
She smiles and says: “thanks”

They say: “ You are lucky, you found a great guy”
She says: “ Why do you say so…?”

And they stay together. And time goes by. Maybe they could have found better. Maybe not. But they will never know. So they stay.

He says: “ Do you see us together in a year”?
She thinks: “ A year! Let’s make it past the summer”; but only says” Do you…?”

Relationships

‘I do”.

Be Healed – A Poem For a Broken Heart

Be healed heart of mine

For I love you

And the God of all loves you

 

Be healed.

Don’t be saddened by those who hurt you

For their love isn’t as great as God’s love.

 

Be healed, I command you.

You have never ending, forgiving and empowering love.

 

Don’t rely on other people’s love

Be it friends or family.

It was you and the Lord from the beginning

It shall be you and the lord at the end.

 

So be healed heart of mine

And rest in this understanding.

Let’s Keep It To Ourselves- The Beginning of a Doomed Relationship

“Let’s Keep It To Ourselves”- The Beginning of a Doomed Relationship?

I have a friend that I spent so much time with last year. A tall , good looking and charming young man. We went on a few dates and it didn’t take long before I had a huge crash on him. He was unlike any guy I had met: very down to earth, with an outgoing personality and he didn’t try too hard to impress. What I liked most about him was that he seemed to be a selfless human being.

The guy was no prince charming. He left the city for few weeks  and when he came back, he was dating another girl. I could tell from the get-go;   there was a different vibe to our “friendship”. So since I am observant and inquisitive, I asked him. After a few moments of hesitation (and pretending that he hadn’t heard my question), he said: “Yes. But she doesn’t want people to know”.

That, ladies and gentleman, is a passport  to cheating. Let’s be real, if you are a lady in your early 20s and the world thinks you are single, what happens? Well, you will have tons of guys running after you. And, all your friends will try to hook you up with every ‘good’ or hot single guy they meet. And if you are a handsome guy, you will have girls roaming around, awaiting your advances.

Needless to say, the guy cheated countless times with different girls. And most of them were oblivious that he was in a relationship. Except for me. Yes, I was one of the culprits. And I am not proud of it at all.

So why am I telling you this?

This morning, I found myself in the same shoes. Karma is real people!!

Failing RelationshipsThe  guy that I  have just started dating mentioned that he keeps his relationships secret. “I don’t want people in my business”, he said. A light bulb went on. I started thinking about my friend’s story. Then I thought about the guys who have been asking me out lately and how hard it would be to reject them without a legit reason like: “No thank you. I am seeing someone”.

So what do you guys think? Is it the beginning of a doomed relationship? I like him but frankly, I have no time for games #AINTNOBODY’SGOTTIMEFORTHAT.

My heart has been broken once. The pain was excruciating. I have no intention to re-live that experience. Even the bible says: “ Above all else, guide your heart. For everything you do, flows from it. “ (Proverbs 4:23) so I say: “No no no no, don’t phunk with my heart.

Comment and tell me what you think. Do you know of any successful ‘secret’ relationships? Or do you agree with me?