What about me, asks the present…

We laugh. We worry. We cry.
Moments come and go
While we sleep walk through life.
 
Time passes
We reflect on the past
We plan, hope and pray
We sleep walk through life.
 
But what about me, asks the present…
 
You, we say,
Are a vessel to the future
The stepping-stone to our tomorrows
The rock on which we stand and reminisce on our yesterdays.
 
You, we say,
We’ll think about you tomorrow.
 
For now we’ll plan, hope and pray
And reminisce on our yesterdays.
Maybe one day in our tomorrows,
We will be able to meet you today.

We Say, It’s a Relationship…

He says he doesn’t want to set expectations high
She says: oh, Is that what you are doing?

He says that he doesn’t like calling people
But she picks his call when he is horny

Some might call this girl foolish. But she isn’t that dumb.

He says, he doesn’t get attached to people
She listens. She believes him.

She says: ‘ if I was gone for one week, would you forget me’?
He says: ‘ You don’t even know! That’s why I am calling’.

He says: ‘ I promise to never jaywalk again when I am with you.’
A week later he says “ I must have been drunk when I said that”.

Maya Angelou said: “When someone shows you who they are, believe them”.

He says: ‘ you are making me fall for you’.
She stays quiet. And kisses him

He says: ‘ trust me. I’ll pull out in time’
She says: ‘ That’s what all guys say”.

He says: ‘ I want to try something. But I need you to trust me’.
She says: ‘This goes beyond trust’.

Her daddy told her, urajye usara uzi imisozi.

He wants sex.
She wants experience

She offers him food.
He doesn’t like her cooking.

She wants practice
He wants satisfaction

He needs love
She needs appreciation

He wants forever
She wants the best day of her life

They say: “ You guys make a cute couple”
She smiles and says: “thanks”

They say: “ You are lucky, you found a great guy”
She says: “ Why do you say so…?”

And they stay together. And time goes by. Maybe they could have found better. Maybe not. But they will never know. So they stay.

He says: “ Do you see us together in a year”?
She thinks: “ A year! Let’s make it past the summer”; but only says” Do you…?”

Relationships

‘I do”.

Be Healed – A Poem For a Broken Heart

Be healed heart of mine

For I love you

And the God of all loves you

 

Be healed.

Don’t be saddened by those who hurt you

For their love isn’t as great as God’s love.

 

Be healed, I command you.

You have never ending, forgiving and empowering love.

 

Don’t rely on other people’s love

Be it friends or family.

It was you and the Lord from the beginning

It shall be you and the lord at the end.

 

So be healed heart of mine

And rest in this understanding.

It’s Okay To Accept Help

This post is for people who view help as a weakness. Those who want to show the world that they can do everything by themselves; that  they are self sufficient.

Just because you are accepting help, doesn’t mean that you are incapable of doing it yourself. We accept help because things are much better when shared. Lighten your burden and let someone else land a helping hand. That is how the universe operates. Think about the ecosystem. All organisms are interdependent.  Animals need plants for food and shelter. Plants need animals for manure and to keep the balance of carbon dioxide in the air.

Humans are also the same. Let’s look at economics 101. Country A may be able to produce two goods better than country B. However, if country A decides to focus on the production of good 1 and imports good 2 from country B, then efficiency goes up.

So accept help. Be open to vulnerability ; (See Brene Brown’s Ted Talk on The Power of Vulnerability).

Land a helping hand. Allow someone, and be someone’s,  rainbow in the clouds.

 

Desiderata

Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be critical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy

 – Desidarata – “desired things”-  By  Max Ehrmann

Sleep. The Reboot to Button to Our Being

Sleep to me is like Love. We need it to function properly. To appreciate life’s beauty. To be present.

There are many factors that prevent us from getting a good night sleep, let’s discuss two major culprits:

Stress and Anxiety- Sleep Killers

Eckhart Tolle, a great spiritual teacher, says that anxiety and stress are caused by the lack of presence. When you are anxious, stressed or worried, it is because you are stuck in the past or trying to change the outcomes of the future, But truly, we can’t do that. The past is gone, the future is YET to come and all we have is the present. I love what the bible says on this topic:

“I tell you not to worry about your life. Don’t worry about having something to eat, drink, or wear. Isn’t life more than food or clothing? Look at the birds in the sky! They don’t plant or harvest. They don’t even store grain in barns. Yet your Father in heaven takes care of them. Aren’t you worth more than birds? Don’t worry about tomorrow. It will take care of itself. You have enough to worry about today.” (Matthew 6:25-34)

So if you want to distress, ask yourself: ” What is wrong with THIS MOMENT right now?” Not this hour or these past 5 mins but this second right now? That question right there will bring you into the present. And if you ‘let tomorrow worry about itself’, you will be alright.

Going back to the topic of sleep:

My advice is, try to calm your mind before going to bed. Last night I was stressed so I grabbed my headphones, tuned into Songza.com and listened to calming music. The effects were amazing, 15 mins later, my problems seemed surmountable.

Other people recommend meditation.  Sitting in silence for about 10-20mins and focusing on your breath. This is hard to do at first. I have learnt that if you stop trying to get rid of your thoughts and just let them come and go, you will be at peace.

Share with me what you do to get a good night sleep. Maybe someone will come up with something i have never heard of….

 

Let’s Keep It To Ourselves- The Beginning of a Doomed Relationship

“Let’s Keep It To Ourselves”- The Beginning of a Doomed Relationship?

I have a friend that I spent so much time with last year. A tall , good looking and charming young man. We went on a few dates and it didn’t take long before I had a huge crash on him. He was unlike any guy I had met: very down to earth, with an outgoing personality and he didn’t try too hard to impress. What I liked most about him was that he seemed to be a selfless human being.

The guy was no prince charming. He left the city for few weeks  and when he came back, he was dating another girl. I could tell from the get-go;   there was a different vibe to our “friendship”. So since I am observant and inquisitive, I asked him. After a few moments of hesitation (and pretending that he hadn’t heard my question), he said: “Yes. But she doesn’t want people to know”.

That, ladies and gentleman, is a passport  to cheating. Let’s be real, if you are a lady in your early 20s and the world thinks you are single, what happens? Well, you will have tons of guys running after you. And, all your friends will try to hook you up with every ‘good’ or hot single guy they meet. And if you are a handsome guy, you will have girls roaming around, awaiting your advances.

Needless to say, the guy cheated countless times with different girls. And most of them were oblivious that he was in a relationship. Except for me. Yes, I was one of the culprits. And I am not proud of it at all.

So why am I telling you this?

This morning, I found myself in the same shoes. Karma is real people!!

Failing RelationshipsThe  guy that I  have just started dating mentioned that he keeps his relationships secret. “I don’t want people in my business”, he said. A light bulb went on. I started thinking about my friend’s story. Then I thought about the guys who have been asking me out lately and how hard it would be to reject them without a legit reason like: “No thank you. I am seeing someone”.

So what do you guys think? Is it the beginning of a doomed relationship? I like him but frankly, I have no time for games #AINTNOBODY’SGOTTIMEFORTHAT.

My heart has been broken once. The pain was excruciating. I have no intention to re-live that experience. Even the bible says: “ Above all else, guide your heart. For everything you do, flows from it. “ (Proverbs 4:23) so I say: “No no no no, don’t phunk with my heart.

Comment and tell me what you think. Do you know of any successful ‘secret’ relationships? Or do you agree with me?

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